About Shel

Satisfied Clients and Testimonials

 Satisfied clients include Partners in architectural firms, a nursing home business; Consultants to management, auto dealers, the media (e.g.PR), to high tech firms directors and bankers; Heads of departments in non-profit educational institutions, day care or health centers; Owners and CEOs of such companies as travel agency, realtors, solo photographers, artists, attorneys, retailing couples, catering business, psychologist couples in joint venture, family construction business; Founders of software startups and of an environmental compliance company; solo physicians, physician managers, free-lance journalists, divorcing mediators, biotech executives, sales executives, and financial planners.


“A natural problem solver, who is very flexible.”

Respectful, high quality attention with a sense of humor.”

“Managing members of a diverse group, his leadership and ability to remain neutral had a calming effect.”

“Dr. Shel, Your facilitation skills are extraordinary”

Shel graduated from Brown University with Honors and Phi Beta Kappa in 1969. He then earned a full fellowship and Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill . In September of 1972 he accepted the offers of a Child Psychology, APA approved Pre-Doctoral Internship at Judge Baker Guidance Center , and then a Post-Doctoral joint Internship the following year at Children’s Hospital Medical Center and Judge Baker. His Dissertation, completed and defended in September 1973, is a study of dramatic artists’ creative process and personality. Shel co-authored (with Norman Paul) “Death and Dying and the Multigenerational Impact,” in M. Karpel (Ed.) Mobilizing Family Resources , (N.Y.: Guilford, 1986).

Real Work
After working in sales and management in the summers of 1969 and 1970, he developed his first solo business: for children, couples and families in 1973. In 1976, Shel began to work at Harvard Pilgrim Health Care (HPHC). During his twenty-one years at HPHC, a regional 14-site 550 million-dollar health care delivery system, Dr. Miller was the Kenmore Child Coordinator. He designed and led his own family therapy seminar, supervised health care trainees of all disciplines and received the Diamond Award with his Kenmore staff teammates. He was trained in the HPHC Behavioral Medicine Program as a program leader and coach. Dr. Miller delivered the Personal Health Improvement Program, and was approved by Family’s First of Atlanta to teach the parent seminar called “Children Cope with Divorce.” Shel also co-led a Humanistic Health Care Project and created a workshop for mentors to young trainees in that workplace.

Since 1982, Dr. Miller has had a reputation for creatively using video technology, including a special effects generator, to coach clients re: their presentation of self, past and present, via closed circuit TV. With such audio visual aids, he has achieved accelerated and lasting results for many leaders and family members. Shel has given numerous workshops on family systems, brief cost-effective consultation and entrepreneurial empowerment. He has increased staff satisfaction in for profit enterprises as well as for Day Care Directors and Brookline School Special Education Personnel.

Current Endeavors
Include training teams to work in the Collaborative Law process and coaching divorcing executives on all the issues involved in divorce. Dr. Miller is on the Consulting Staff of Tufts-New England Medical Center’s Comprehensive Family Evaluation Center for whom he provides Parent Coordination to Post-Divorce families. He is a Board member of the Massachusetts Collaborative Law Council.  He has also been a Board Member of The Divorce Center. As the first psychological Family Event Coach, he is developing a niche practice working to reduce angst in families planning milestone events such as reunions. Dr. Miller builds or restores successful working relationships among partners at work or at home and helps his clients with life strategies to integrate work and family life.


  • Solving people puzzles of business owners, attorneys, accountants, physicians, and HR/Training directors.
  • Boston CEO Club, American Family Therapy Academy , and MA & American Psychological Associations
  • MA Collaborative Law Council.
  • Vice-President, Leadership Team, International Coach Federation – N.E. Chapter and Toastmaster’s.
  • The founding of EXECUTIVE PERSPECTIVE in Brookline , where he lives with his wife and children.
  • Enjoying competition on the tennis and basketball courts and the coaching of youth basketball teams.

With an oft-praised sense of humor, he is committed to assisting others to enjoy a positive journey to sustained success through personal development. The secret of his success is his curiosity and commitment to excellence.